I aint bloody gay and I fall into this category. ...Sisters want a "spiritual man" and I was never spiritual enough or so it seemed, titles like pioneer, MS, Elder go along way evidently. (I was an MS for several years but moved cong and wasn't made MS in the new hall, then moved again, then some politics in the hall got in the way and an elder kept blocking me being MS again)
I basically put my life on hold thinking the end was nigh and felt "so what if I get to be 40 and still single, in the greater scheme of things it won't matter".. Now, I am obviously pissed that I felt this way knowing now that it's all BS.
I'm good looking and a masculine chap, not some desk weed who could swing either way. What i mean by that is that some men do look effeminate and I certainly do not. (yes i know being gay has little to do with how you look ffs) At the moment I'd love a relationship but having just left "the truth", but it not being official in the cong, then my chances are nil with any JWs and tbh the last thing I need or want is a relationship with a JW, plus i cant start a proper one with a non JW without getting DFd pronto, so this is going to be on hold until i get myself sorted out a bit more. I'm basically going to have to move away and start over if I want to keep my family which sucks.
As to your question about status in the cong, then I am (or was) well liked and respected, no one makes an assumption in thinking I might be gay afaik. Though i'm sure it must get a mention and i'd be stupid to think it wouldn't. However when i was about 26ish one old stupid elder got it into his head i must have something wrong with me because i wasnt married and didnt have a girlfriend and basically insinuated that I was gay. The other elders had to sort him out on that one the stupid old pervert that he was.